The resources below include a guidebook for parents seeking to establish or reestablish a relationship with their children, a book by experts in the resist-refuse dynamic which describes the systemic contributors and specific actions each parent can take to aid in repair and healing, a documentary in which real families describe the long term effects of ruptured relationships between children and parents, and a tool for measuring progress in resist-refuse cases with measures for each parent and for the children.

PLEASE NOTE: if you are considering hiring or appointing me as your family therapist, and you are represented by an attorney, please share the content of this page with your attorney, and any other person who is helping with your case, such as a children's attorney, parent coordinator, custody evaluator, or therapists working with any member of the family. For this therapy to be successful, the professionals involved must agree to work collaboratively together in support of the children having healthy relationships with both parents.

I work pursuant to a court order which orders the parents to participate in famkily therapy and appoints me as the therapist.  

I only accept cases where both parents agree that it is in the children's best interest to have healthy relationships with both parents.

I only accept cases where:

      a. The children are already exercising parenting time with both parents without much resistance; or

      b. The children may be expressing contact resistance but the parents are ensuring that the parenting plan is being exercised; or

      c.There has been a period of non-contact and the child is resisting further contact, but there has a been a child custody and parenting time evaluation which recommends parenting time (and preferably also recommends family therapy).

I require that there is court-ordered a step-up parenting plan entered which begins with the current parenting time and contains incremental steps toward re-established parenting time (the shared parenting time schedule which will be in place following successful work in family therapy).

I work with the entire family, not just the child or child who are resisting contact and the resisted parent.  That means I work with both parents, all children, members of each parents household, and extended family members where appropriate.

I only work in cases where all affiliated professionals, including individual therapists, attorneys (including attorneys for children), Parent Coordinators and the like are practicing from a best interests perspective.

This work requires each parent and the children to examine and often change beliefs, emotional responses and behaviors in order to support the treatment goals.  You must be willing to make change in order for this work to be successful.

I do not bill insurance or provide superbills for court-ordered family therapy.